«Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?» (Amos 3:3).
This question has two parts although it entails many other parts and deep aspects that are far-reaching and very relevant in our Lives.
It seems that there are people who cannot be alone. As soon as they end one relationship, they start another. It is not a question of judging behavior here, but of opening up an opportunity to reflect on the motives that lead us to get together with another person in a loving relationship. Unfortunately, the feeling of loneliness or the need for attention are common motivators, when in reality, they are not good enough reason or cause for embarking on something serious that can affect our spiritual perceptions and the usefulness and service of both parties.
Before entering into a relationship exclusively for the purpose of receiving, we need to evaluate whether we have anything to give. We often expect many things from the other without being up to those great expectations. We often seek to find love in the other that we have not taken the time to find first in God. Then what can we give if not crumbs or something that will inevitably run out?
Thus, we should first see if we are ready to “walk together.” However, we must also keep in mind the biblical commands and inspired counsel when choosing the one we will be with.
God wants to live in us and walk with us, to be the center of our relationships so that there will be blessings until they are very abundant.
Let us think seriously about these questions. Sometimes there can be differences in beliefs or habits that can be detrimental to ideal harmony even among people of the same religion. If you are not in a similar dilemma, you no doubt have a friend who is struggling with this decision. We can all help each other, strengthen each other , and remind each other of God ‘s true plan for us, His children. It is not about being elitist or discriminating, but about being more aware of the great struggle between good and evil.
I recommend reading the section «Can Two Walk Together Except They Be Agreed?» in Ellen White’s book Letters to Young Lovers.
Whatever our current situation may be, we can look for God today so He can give us wisdom and determination in acting according to His will.