PERHAPS the question you have been asking yourself over the last three readings is: What about sexuality in the life of a single woman? After all, God created us as sexual beings, and this is a gift for every man and woman for purposes that go beyond physical pleasure.
Sexuality is a means, not an end in itself. It’s through a marriage commitment that sexual relationships are blessed by God and where two people who love each other make their love take root. This is like saying that single women should be on guard, so as not to fall into false sexual practices such as pornography, masturbation and premarital sexual relations, which might give momentary physical pleasure, but will generate an empty space in the soul and deterioration of the self-esteem.
Dear friend, sexuality isn’t a horrible monster that demands gratification at any cost. It’s a gift that is awakened and gratified when the right conditions exist. Short and casual sexual relations without commitment are what the Hedonist idea of sexuality suggests; but in the end, that lifestyle results in emotional emptiness that can lead to promiscuity and a loss of integrity. The reason for this is simple, and I all show it to you with these words of sexologist Carmen Morales: “Biological, psychological and sociological factors intervene in human sexual behavior which will act simultaneously, and their final result will be unique.” This combination of factors can only be possible within the sacred realm of marriage, not in the loneliness of singleness.
Cultivate a healthy life, body and mind, and God will do for you what you find hard to do for yourself.
God bless you and help you live your single life joyfully. Don’t allow anyone to force you into a relationship that can become a curse and not a blessing that God wants to give you.