MODERN LIFE, which goes by in such a hurry and has become complicated, has stolen some very good things from us, without even noticing it. Because of differences in work and school schedules among family members, children arrive home when parents are leaving, or spouses themselves don’t have the same work schedules: he works the night shift and she works during the day. Those situations don’t allow family gatherings to take place and make marriages pay a very high price.
That’s why communication is vital!
Some research on the subject affirm that couples who maintain rich and open communication have a greater ability to face crises with integrity and come out of them strengthened as a family and individually. Unfortunately, as communication in couples is so rare today, crises often end up destroying the family.
In a study of 5,000 married people, they were asked how much time a day they spent exclusively talking to each other. Results showed that, after two years of marriage, the average couple talked two- or three-minutes during breakfast, twenty minutes during dinner and a few minutes in bed. After six years, they barely spoke for about ten minutes a day. And, after eight years, they preserved a marriage almost without words (Curran, Stress and the Healthy Family, p. 39).
Many marriage crises have to do with a decline in communication; when this is cut off, it happens subtly, little by little, so slowly that couples don’t realize it, until a definitive breakdown occurs. In the end, they have nothing to talk about to each other. Not even about Christ or the gospel!
Christ is the unifying element in every interpersonal relationship. Let us place Him at the center of the marriage relationships: let us pray together as spouses, listen to each other without judging one another, let us remember the wonderful times we had when we were dating—remembering is re- living. Let us make plans for the future where we see each other together, let’s praise each other’s accomplishments and forgive mistakes. Amen.