“Correct your son, and he will give you rest; yes, he will give delight to your soul» (Proverbs 29: 17). .
THE MOST FREQUENT complaint I hear from children who have come to me for therapy is that their parents don’t pay attention to them or talk to them; and parents’ repeated excuse is that they don’t have time to be with their children, because they’re too busy with work and daily chores.
In a study conducted in the United States with children between the ages of twelve and eighteen of different nationalities, including Asians, Europeans, Hispanics and North Americans, this question was asked, “What would you like your parents give you?» In different words, but always with the same meaning, they all answered they wanted their parents to spend more time with them. Being more with mom and dad was what they perceived was the best gift. The most common answer was: “I want to spend time with my parents playing and talking; I want us to do things together, to come with me to important events. to meet my friends.» What a meaningful request! Could it be that our children have the same request in their hearts and haven’t yet expressed it to us?
Open and honest family communication is a basic need. This should include moments for mutual and individual needs-physical, emotional and spiritual—to be discussed and expressed. It requires creating a space where everyone speaks and is listened to with a level of loving understanding, where each member’s strengths and limitations are accepted, including mutual demonstrations of love and care.
Creating a climate of intimacy at home is the task of both parents and Children, and it’s based on a mutual commitment of love and care. To achieve this, it requires personal effort, investing in family projects and spending time together in God’s company.
Ellen G. White declares, “The home may be plain, but it can always be a place where cheerful words are spoken and kindly deeds are done, where courtesy and love are abiding guests. Administer the rules of the home in Adorn and love, not with a rod of iron. Children will respond with willing obedience to the rule of love. Commend your children whenever you can. ale their lives as happy as possible» (The Adventist Home, ch. 1, p. 18).
Let’s make our home an extension of heaven, creating an environment where everyone feels accepted.