”And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath,
but bring them up In the training and admonition of the Lord’
ONE OF THE MOST Challenging tasks for mothers at home is their children’s education. I dare say that every mother has an inner wish for them. We want them to obey rules and through their actions reflect the values we have cultivated in them day by day. Of course, I also believe all children’s, no matter who they are, want to obey their parents and fulfill their expectations. Then, why is it that so many parents suffer for their children’s open disobedience? Why are there so many children defiant of authority and reluctant to obey?
Let’s think for a moment about the following: What would a child do if his or her parents didn’t follow through the rules they have established t home—tidying up, cleaning up, good habits, etc.? How would a child, who is expected to put things back where they belong, react when his father or mother leaves her belongings all over the place? This incoherence in his parents obviously produces discouragement and ambivalent thoughts in young children. Therefore, my friend, let’s create a fair environment so the children may develop the obedience’s virtue in our homes. Let’s teach them through our good example. If we want our children to do something, we should always do it first. This is a coherent education.
Let us imagine the following situation:
Today, Charlie’s mom doesn’t allow him to do what he was allowed to do the day before. Yesterday Charlie jumped up and down on the bed without being punished,because his mom was having a good day.
But Today; Charlie is punished and scolded for doing the same thing, because his mom is having a bad day and she feels overwhelmed.
The child’s response to this attitude is confusion. However, he learns that he can manipulate rules according to his mom’s mood. ‘Therefore, you should never discipline a child based on your mood. Discipline should be established as an unwavering value. Rules can be adapted, but not broken.
Happy children feel safe because they know their parents are in control and this gives them security for their future.
There will always be someone they have to obey! Let’s begin to set an example ourselves by obeying God.