“Then the man said, ‘The woman whom You gave to be with me,
she gave me of the tree, and I ate.’
And the Lord God said to the woman, ‘What is this you have done?’
And the woman said, ‘The serpent deceived me, and I ate’”
(Genesis 3:12, 13).
THE GENDER STRUGGLE seems to be worse in certain areas of society. There are women who openly declare themselves anti-male and never miss an opportunity to confront men. There are also men who conceptualize women as inferior beings, born to be at their service. Additionally, we find women who submit to male domination at the expense of their dignity, believing that men were born to possess them and women to be possessed, and instinctively seek to be in relationships with men that reaffirm this belief. However, when God created man and woman, His purposes were very different.
The gender power struggle began after the fall. The Bible narrative refers to the first disagreement between Adam and Eve who, after having been questioned for their sin, replied the following: “The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate….The serpent deceived rue, and 1 ate’ (Genesis 3:12, 13). It’s obvious that neither of them took the blame for their actions; on the contrary, they sought others as the guilty ones, not recognizing their ohm sin. This is what usually happens today in marriages; disagreements end in fights and fights, in a war that often ends the relationship.
God wants men and women to grow together as people, helping each other. We are made to go beyond our differences. Disobedience led man and woman to see each other as opponents and remain in situations that are sometimes irreconcilable. Since then and up to now, the power struggle has become more intense. Unless we humbly submit ourselves to God and become sensitive to each other’s needs and accept we’re both different, nothing will change.
Marriage conflicts cause emotional damage in both spouses, not only that, but they break family circles apart and destabilize children. In order to get by, children seek escape routes such as addictions and bad companies.
No marriage is exempt from disagreements, but if you both analyze the way you communicate, set your pride aside and seek God as a mediator, disagreements will be unimportant and your relationship will be strengthened.