Bearing with one another, and forgiving one anotheranyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection” (Colossians 3:13, 14).
A DISAPPOINTED WIFE had this to say about husband: “When we were dating, I like being with him, because he has always smiling; his good mood and jokes relieved my tension. Now, after five years of marriage, I realize he does not take anything seriously and he is constantly joking about everything, as if life was a joke. When we get together with friends, everybody sees him as the party jester and that makes him happy, but makes me feel embarrassed. I would like for him to take things a little more seriously.” It’s unbelievable that precisely the thing the make her fall in love with him when first were dating, was now the cause of disliking him, because it embarrassed her. Perhaps “unbelievable” isn’t the right word to describe this situation, as this is a fairly common issue in marriages.
Married life has the ability to confront us face to face with who we really are; in that coexistence between two people, each person’s natural tendencies emerge, and we see them differently than when we wrapped them up in the infatuation of courtship without living together. That’s why Paul advises, forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another» (Colossians 3:13). It’s not that we should be patient because we have no other alternative; but inspired by the love we feel, we must learn to forgive everything that is a cause of complaint for us.
Of course, tolerating bothersome things in our spouse without complaining is certainly difficult, but it’s good to remember that God’s love will enable us to accept our husband just the way he is and not the way we would like him ro be. Remember what made you fall in love with him and renew your commitment to live together until death pans you from his side.