«If you have been foolish in exalting yourself, or if you have devised evil, put your hand on your mouth.
For as the churning of milk produces butter, and wringing the nose produces blood so the forcing of wrath produces strife» (Proverbs 30.32, 33).
WHOMEVER has blown their nose too hard certainly regrets seconds later, for they realize that it was an inappropriate action to which their body responded with blood and pain. Provoking a fight is equally foolish, as it only leaves traces of pain in the heart. People who fight have compromised their ability to dialogue, which makes them lash out with all their negative energy against each other, Without thinking about the consequences.
Those who quarrel want to honor their need for control, due to an obsessive desire to prove that their viewpoint is correct and to hold the others accountable when they realize that they made a mistake. Those who have trouble connecting affably with others should check themselves if they are connected to God. This is the beginning and the end of good interpersonal relationships. God is the linking element that unites us to our fellow men and makes us sensitive and empathetic, without neglecting our opinions regarding something or someone.
Check your interpersonal relationships, your connection with others, and your defense mechanisms. Not only is important not to fight; but also, important not to provoke fights or dissensions with our words and actions. In the Bible we read: «A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. . . . A wholesome tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit» (Proverbs 15: l, 4).
Dialogue is an art that can be learned with humility and respect, recognizing that the opinion of the other is just as valid as yours. Mother, talk to your children kindly; don’t provoke them to anger. Wife, build a good communication with your husband, setting aside your irrational desire to always be right and get the last word. If you find this difficult to do, pray and ask God to help you. Close the floodgates so that your pride and self-centeredness don’t overflow, and allow Gods peace to flood your being.
Create a peaceful and conciliatory environment wherever you are, so that your presence is a clear reflection of God’s presence.