«To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven» (Ecclesiastes 3:1).
IT FEELS LIKE it was only yesterday that I left my parents’ home to start my own family; however, over forty years have gone by already. And, going over the clock of my existence, I see how the story repeated itself with my daughters as well. More than a decade ago they gathered all their belongings and left the home where they had been raised, to take charge of their own lives. This also seems like it was yesterday.
Faced with this unavoidable reality, today I go through my treasure chest of life experiences, and a little nostalgic and perhaps with certain feeling of guilt, I realize that I didn’t take advantage of the precious moments I could have spent with them. . . I think, for example, of the day when I punished one of them because my selfish wish had not been met. How can I forget my daughters scared little face when, after coming home from kindergarten, I went through her backpack and found the banana she had taken to eat at lunchtime? It had turned into a black mush and I scolded her when I could have in fact hugged her. ThatS why I say that when I look back, a certain feeling of guilt comes over me that I don’t wish on you, if you still can avoid it.
Dear friend, as a mother, time is limited and there is lots of anxiety. Wanting to discipline and educate our children, with the best intentions and for their own good, we don’t take full advantage of some moments that could be magical. One day they won’t be home any longer, and in their hearts and minds they will carry the good and the bad that you gave them. Spend time laughing, talking, playing and dreaming with your children, so that when you see them leave your side, they will take the best of you with them. When they start their own family, try to be an inspiration for them and not a trauma that they might try to solve with the help of a psychologist.
Motherhood places a great responsibility on us, but at the same time, it’s a source of personal growth. God has granted mothers the strength to contain a child’s insecure personality and a teenager’s unstable personality. He also gave us tenderness to hug away childish fears and comfort a son’s loneliness.
Tomorrow will become yesterday.
Every second, minute and hour can have an impact on your children’s lives forever.