Q: My parents are divorced, and I live with my mom. When I go to spend time with my dad, I get the feeling Mom thinks I don’t love her anymore. How can I help my parents understand that I love them both the same? I’m a thirteen-year-old girl.
A: Here’s something to think about. Imagine you own the cutest, funniest, and most lovable pet dog in the world.
But unfortunately, you have to share it with another kid way across town. So the dog lives mostly with you, but sometimes goes away to visit the other kid. When the dog is with you, you feel loved and happy. But when it’s gone, you really miss it. Such a situation isn’t exactly the same as yours, but in a way it shows how your mom probably feels when you’re visiting your dad.
You can help by reassuring your mom that you really do love her. Try doing something to let her know she’s special. For example, set aside a day every week when the two of you go to a favorite spot or do something together you both enjoy. Or you could make her «queen for a day» by treating her to a day off from housework and cooking. You can probably come up with more—even better—ideas. But whatever you do, remember often to say these three little words (to both of your parents): «I love you.»