“Correct your son, and he will give you rest; yes, he will give delight to your soul” (Proverbs 29:17).
Once, a three-year-old girl asked her father, «Dad, can you give me a caramel candy?»
«No, you haven’t eaten yet,» the father answered.
«But I am going to eat,» the girl insisted.
«I told you No. Don’t keep insisting.»
«Come on, give me a candy!» she said in a more angry tone.
«Do not raise your voice,» replied the father.
«Give me a candy, or I’ll cry!» threatened the girl.
«If you cry, I won’t give it to you after you eat,» was the final answer.
The girl stopped insisting and left. Later the father was thinking about the way his daughter had demanded candy, and especially her last words: «Give me a candy, or I’ll cry!»
Crying is one of the main weapons that children use to manipulate their parents. Although they do not seem to be, they are great observers of the behavior of adults and they measure the tolerance of their elders toward their temper tantrums. So they know perfectly well how far they can go; but at the slightest hesitation on the part of the parents, the children are prepared to exercise manipulation to get what they want: toys, candy, television programs, among other things. By yielding to their whims, the parents become servants of their majesties, their children, who govern to the pleasure of the will of their parents, under the threat of breaking down in tears at the slightest negative.
Overprotection of children favors them using manipulation toward their parents. And that is a very bad antecedent in the formation of the character of children. In the future they will be extremely selfish people who do not know how to live with others or cooperate in various activities; they are very likely to be a real burden to their future spouses and coworkers. That is why it is very important to put a stop to children and teach them the meaning of limits. That way, we will be preparing them to be better people in this world.
Do you become angry when your parents don’t give in to your desires? Do you imagine that they do not love you because they do not fulfill your whims? Have you ever thought that they’re trying to protect you? However, it is also true that there are young people who manipulate their parents by threatening to leave the house, quit school, or leave the church if they do not yield to their whims. That road leads to ruin. And later, during the relationship with their spouses, the bad habit of manipulating others will rise to embitter the lives of those next to them, especially spouses and children.