Q: What do you do when a guy likes you but spreads stories about you all over the school? (I don’t even like this guy!)
A: Wow! What a strange way for a guy to show that he likes you! It’s never nice to spread rumors, even if they happen to be true. Usually by the time the rumor gets around it’s all blown out of proportion because somebody has changed some of the information. Rumors hurt people and damage relationships.
You probably need to ask this guy why he’s telling tales about you. Explain to him that you don’t appreciate it and that you’d like him to stop. If he doesn’t, take the matter to a teacher; he or she should know how to put a stop to the problem. You might also ask your teacher to lead a class discussion on the harmful effects of rumors. (Actually, your tormentor is only part of the problem. The other kids need to know that it’s wrong to circulate rumors and that by passing along the gossip, they contribute to the problem.)
Meanwhile, if somebody comes to you with information, they heard about you, ask them where they got it. Let them know that it’s not true, and request they not repeat it. If someone tries to gossip with you about somebody else, refuse to listen, or change the subject. Tell the person you don’t want to participate in hurting other people. Finally, when the time is right, share this text with others: «A gossip separates close friends» (Proverbs 16:28).