Q: I’m twelve. I have a stepdad who is real mean. Every time he gets mad about something he gets mad at everyone, especially me. My mom says to pray for him. I’ve tried, but nothing happens. I just need some advice because I don’t know what to do.
A: Trying to change people is like trying to change an opossum into a toad—it doesn’t happen. Only God can transform your stepdad.
Understand that your parents have struggles and pressures similar to the hard things you go through. You may be the target they dump their frustrations on. It’s not fair to you, but it does help you not to take some of the anger and criticism so personally.
You can help your stepdad see how his behavior is affecting you. Gently approach him and tell him how you feel when he gets angry. Don’t accuse him, but let him know your viewpoint,