Q: I’m thirteen. Ever since my family has moved to a military base in North Carolina, I haven’t found friends my age. All my friends in my neighborhood are in high school. They are all very nice and treat me like one of the family. My parents don’t like them very well because they curse and don’t really care about school, but I do get good grades in school and care about it. Isn’t that all that matters? It’s also kind of hard for me because I’m a Christian. What should I do?
A: Schedule a peace conference with your parents. In • preparation, read Proverbs 13:1-3, pray about it, then brainstorm by listing all the problems you see associated with this issue and all the solutions you may want to consider. Don’t evaluate your list; just write down everything that comes to mind. When you walk into the peace conference, your parents will see you have thought it through and are prepared to consider lots of options. Parents are a funny species. Sometimes they do things that make as much sense as a religious grunge album. But remember, even though some of their actions seem irrational to you, they have reasons for behaving the way they do. For example, maybe your parents had too much freedom while they were growing up and it caused them a lot of hurt.
Or they may have been irresponsible when they were your age, so they assume you are irresponsible as well. These are the kinds of things that will surface at the peace conference and, hopefully, bring you to some kind of understanding.