«Death and life are in the power of the tongue» (Proverbs 18:21).
HUMAN BEINGS do not need to go to school to learn the art of complaining. Adam himself complained to God that the woman He had given him had provoked him to sin. As the woman, she complained about the serpent that God Himself had created (see Genesis 3:11—13). The two complainers finally left Eden, and from then until today, complaining has continued to be part of human nature. However, it is a part that we should uproot from our habits with God’s help.
Complaining would have something positive if it mobilized us into action, if it were a short moment in which we expressed that a problem is overwhelming us and then we decided to do something about it or leave the situation in God’s hands. However, when complaining becomes a useless repetition of negative words, it is, in reality, a victim mentality that conditions us to think wrongly, and makes it impossible for us to overcome the real problem we are facing. Complaining and sitting on our hands is the fastest way to a cheerless life that casts shadows on others as well.
Complaining as an attitude, as a lifestyle, as a way of presenting ourselves, is a serious problem that not only affects the person who is complaining, but everyone who is around that person. Who could possibly like the company of a person who is always complaining?
Dear friend, if you have reasons to complain in your life, this is what psychologists suggest you do: ask yourself, «Can I change this situation?’ If you can do something to change or improve it, try to do so; concentrate on what you can do, and do it. If there is nothing you can do to change the situation, accept it, adjust your expectations realistically, draw the conclusions that are necessary to learn life lessons, and decide to concentrate your attention on the things and people who contribute something worthwhile to you.
What do you think about deciding not to complain about anything today, at least during these 24 hours that are ahead of you? It is about developing the awareness of a habit that is negative in order to uproot it little by little from our lives.
Do you want to be a happy woman? Begin by not practicing that which certainly produces unhappiness, such as complaining.