Q: I am a fourteen-year-old boy. Last year my father left us • for a different woman. Now it seems my mom always gives my sister’s boyfriend more attention than she gives me. I’m not sure whether or not my mom loves me anymore. Same with my sister. She doesn’t really love me as much as she used to. I don’t know what is wrong with me. It’s like they’re sick of me being around. Maybe I should just commit suicide.
A: Let’s break down these problems.
Father: Understand that his decision to leave is in no way your fault. Often fathers become confused and make decisions they regret.
Sister: Girls usually go through a «boy crazy» phase in which they simply get dizzy over guys. This phase will not last forever, but her relationship with you will. Give her time.
Mother: The problem seems to be a lack of communication and showing love. Even though your mom doesn’t adequately express it, that doesn’t mean she’s stopped loving you. She too struggles with feelings of rejection and failure as she has to adapt to your dad’s leaving. Work on communicating better with her and showing her love, and it will be easier for her to show her love to you.
You: First off, God loves and accepts you just as you are. He created you to be you. God finds value in you, or He wouldn’t have died for you. As you keep reminding yourself of the worth you have in God’s eyes, you will begin to love and accept yourself more.
Yes! You are loved. You are accepted. You are needed. Don’t sell yourself short!