He who is slow to wrath has great understanding, but he who is impulsive exalts folly» (Proverbs 1 4:29)
Wrath and anger are synonymous with broken relationships. One can get angry at situations, at some past memories or at oneself; but the most frequent and dangerous anger is one directed at a spouse, friend, relative, colleague, neighbor And then comes pain, not only that of the victim but also of the angry one. Firstly, the angry person suffers physiological damage. With the advent of anger, the limbic system (buried deep within the brain) causes a series of reactions: cardiac acceleration, increased blood pressure, muscle tension, increased respiratory rate, sweating, pallor, cold hands, and flushing…Secondly, thecognitivefunctionisdamaged: thethinkingprocessbecomesirrational and distorted; thepersontendstofocusonthenegative and getsobsessedwiththereasonoftheanger, no matter how trivial it is.Finally, the most fearsome consequence of the wrath takes place in one’s behavior. Internal distress moves to action. The affected person utters regrettable words, shows an upset face, trembles uncontrollably, raises his voice and displays bullying tactics such as throwing insults, hitting or slamming objects, abusing pets and, finally, being physically violent toward others.
Anger damages interpersonal relationships and even leads to moral implications. Jesus said, «But I say to you that whoever is angry with his brother shall be in danger of the judgment» (Matt. 5:22). If anger becomes a habit, it involves a higher risk of illnesses such as heart diseases, diabetes, insomnia, and weakening of the immune system. Anger can also block one’s ability to enjoy life, giving way to depression and other mental illnesses. Finally, and more importantly, it poisons relationships with loved ones and also one’s relationship with God.
Taking all these risks into account, it’s no wonder that today’s verse qualifies «of great understanding» those who know how to control their wrath and anger. If you are tempted to get angry, run away from such a feeling. If you find it difficult because you have already made a habit of it, submit yourself to God, pray fervently, ask your loved ones to help you, or seek professional assistance if it’s available to you. The Lord will give you peace and self-control so that instead of being angry, you will display love, appreciation, and admiration toward others. Consequently, your relationship with others will flourish.