«He who earnestly seeks good finds favor, but trouble will come to him who seeks evil» (Proverbs 11:27).
Have you ever thought about getting married? If you’re young, you’ve considered the possibility at some point in time. People don’t always get married for the right reasons. In fact, there are several very popular, although very wrong, reasons to get married. Here are some of them:
My boyfriend has money. And what are you going to do if it runs out? Is it fair to marry someone out of self-interest?
I want to get out of my house. But how do you know you won’t be worse off? Imagine what would happen if you end up living with your mother-in-law and become some sort of Cinderella? At least you were doing okay at home.
I’m getting too old. Love is not exclusive of a certain stage of human life. It can be enjoyed at different times.
My girlfriend looks like a doll. Physical beauty is fleeting. Will you still love her when she’s not as attractive?
My girlfriend is very passionate! And what are you going to do when the fire of passion diminishes? What will you do when you get used to her and everything seems routine?
We’ve already had sex. A serious mistake. Are you sure you won’t make another one?
All my friends already got married. Marriage is not a competition to see who will get there first.
He or she is not the best person, but I know they’ll change for love. God is the only one that can change the human heart (Ezekiel 36:25-27). The bad thing is that people don’t always accept His invitations.
If I don’t marry this person, I won’t marry anyone. Don’t you realize there are many fish in the sea? It rather sounds like a whim.
Although I don’t love him, he’s a good person. «To trifle with hearts is a crime of no small magnitude in the sight of a holy God»—The Adventist Home, ch. 8, p. 57. A Christian doesn’t do that.
Everybody says we make a great couple. «There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death» (Proverbs 14:12).
I feel lonely and I have too many problems. Marriage won’t fix any of your emotional problems. It could even make them worse. If you’re not happy with yourself, it’s best to resolve your conflicts before ruining someone else’s life.
There are better reasons to get married. The most important thing is to seek the good of your spouse, learn to serve them and be compatible. You’ll do well that way.