Q: I am ten years old and have an older sister who is always arguing and fighting with me. Sometimes I hate her and want to belt her good. But sometimes she is cool. What would you do?
A: I know what you mean. I have an older sister too. Sometimes I wanted to rip her lips off. But as you mentioned about your sister, she could also be pretty cool at times. Sometime when you and your sister are both in a good mood, sit down and list all the times you can remember when you were really mad at each other. Write down what happened before each fight. Is there a pattern that leads to the quarreling? The trick is to be aware of the beginning stages of arguments and try to stop the fight before it grows into a doozy.
Another good method I have found for handling arguments is to frankly admit my wrongs and ask for forgiveness. It is amazing how quickly this can calm the storm. A little secret about this technique: it will frustrate your sister to no end, because there’s nothing more for her to argue about!