“Let no corrupt Word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers” (Ephesians 4:29).
We designate this month of March to interpersonal relationships because they are source of maximum satisfaction and, at the same time, a cause of the graters problems mankind ever faces. Words are the most powerful told for edifying or destroying relationships. It is of no surprise that the Bible is filled with advice to make good use of the Word. Words are not everything, but they can uplift or destroy others, depending on what one might say. This applies to all relationships: in the family, at work, with Friends, with our neighbors, etc.
Raymond, a twenty-year old man, played football in his neighborhood team. During one of their games, he passed the ball to his teammate Xavier in such a way that Xavier could have easily scored a goal, but he missed the opportunity. As a response, Raymond insulted him in front of everybody. Hurt by his teammate’s offensive comments, Xavier did not play for the rest of the match. Raymond ended up feeling uneasy about his rash behavior. His uncle who was watching the game, told him at the end of the match:
“What you did was not good. Xavier didn’t gain anything from your words and you lost a lot because your actions reflected badly on your character. And worst of all, your friendship is ruined until you do something to improve it.”
Raymond reacted u=in an honorable way. He asked Xavier for forgiveness and admitted his words were inappropriate, hurtful, and disrespectful. They hugged in reconciliation and their relationship became even better than before.
However, there was something that Raymond had not solved: understanding that his actions not only affected his relationship with others. It also affected his relationship with God. He felt guilty and was under the impression that he also offended his heavenly Father. Therefore, he asked God for forgiveness.
If you are at odds with someone because of your words (or for any other reason), do not let too much time to pass before you resolve this conflict: ask for forgiveness. It will be beneficial to your mental and moral health. Ask God, like the Psalmist did, for the right and appropriate words: “Let the words of my mouth and meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, Oh Lord, my strength and my redeemer” (Ps. 19:14).