«A quick-tempered man acts foolishly, and a man of wicked intentions is hated» (Proverbs 14:17).
Patricia was a very attractive and talented young lady. However, she was almost always alone. The problem was that at the most minor happenings she would get mad very easily and start to yell and insult those around her. To her classmates, she was an unbearable person. Her stifling pessimism and hurtful words had become part of her personality. Most of the day her face was angry, and it overshadowed her delicate feminine features and gave off an aggressive image to others. The problem got worse when she started to fight with her parents and siblings more and more. It seemed she wasn’t comfortable anywhere.
There are many people who have lost a family, a job, a professional career or a loving relationship at the hands of an angry outburst. Anger damages health makes us less able to use our reasoning abilities, distances others from us, pollutes communication with others and, as if that wasn’t enough, it produces more anger. That’s why Jesus warns about the importance of not getting angry with others: «But I say, if you are even angry with someone, you are subject to judgment! If you call someone an idiot, you are in danger of being brought before the court. And if you curse someone, you are in danger of the fires of hell» (Matthew 5:22, NLT).
Do you realize how dangerous it is not to control your impulses? That’s why, in another one of his books, Solomon says, «Do not hasten in your spirit to be angry, for anger rests in the bosom of fools» (Ecclesiastes 7:9). But what can we do when we notice our anger is taking over us and we only react to the circumstances? Ellen White says the following about that: «There is only one remedy—positive self-control under all circumstances. The effort to get into a favorable place, where self will not be annoyed, may succeed for a time; but Satan knows where to find these poor souls and will assail them in their weak points again and again. They will be continually troubled so long as they think so much of self. . . . But there is hope for them. Let this life, so stormy with conflicts and worries, be brought into connection with Christ, and then self will no longer clamor for the supremacy»—Mind, Character, and Personality, vol. 2, Ch. 56, p. 523.
Ask the Lord today to help you control your impulses and remain calm when faced with complex situations.