Q: I am eleven years old and I like a girl who likes me, but she also likes a seventh-grader. I do nice things for her whenever I can, but not too much, because I don’t want to scare her away. I don’t know if she is going to go for me or for this other guy in our school. How do I know? And what do I do to get her?
A: You seem to be moving cautiously and slowly—. that’s smart!
Be certain that you are not doing these kind things just to snag a girlfriend, but that you do nice things for everyone simply because you want to. In the long run, if you keep looking for ways to do kind things for others, you’ll have a lot of friends. As for what to do to «get her,» remember, you can never force anyone to like you. You can simply work on yourself and try to be likable. It sounds like you’re doing that