«A person who is full refuses honey, but even bitter food tastes sweet to the hungry» (Proverbs 27:7, NLT).
According to Arthur Schopenhauer (1788-1860), the great German philosopher, the surest way to be unhappy is not wishing to be very happy and drastically reducing personal expectations regarding pleasure, possessions, and acknowledgement, among other things. In addition, he added that it’s precisely aspiring for happiness and striving to attain it that brings about great misfortunes in life. On the other hand, Schopenhauer commented that it wasn’t wise to condition happiness to the fulfillment of many requirements because it would be hard to achieve.
Many young people set high expectations for themselves to attain supposed happiness. Among other things, those high expectations include their future spouse, their studies, a job, a house, and their financial situation. The truth is, very few achieve those expectations, but in the end many of them aren’t happy either! And it turns out that we have a huge amount of people today whose lives are trapped in suffocating unhappiness.
Jesus pointed out a biblical principle to achieve happiness: we have to learn to be happy with little (Matthew 25:21). A person who knows how to enjoy the little things in life will duly enjoy great rewards when they come by. In contrast, a person who has too many requirements to be happy won’t enjoy their brief passage through this life with the hopeful illusion of finding happiness and joy at the end of their frustrating journey through this world. But he won’t find them. Rather, «it is conscientious attention to what the world terms ‘little things’ that makes life a success. Little deeds of charity, little acts of self-denial, speaking simple words of helpfulness, watching against little sins—this is Christianity. A grateful acknowledgment of daily blessings, a wise improvement of daily opportunities, a diligent cultivation of entrusted talents—this is what the Master calls for»—Messages to Young People, Ch. 37, p. 143.
It’s likely that the person you disdain makes a less demanding person very happy. Maybe you have advantages you don’t even value, and you don’t even stop to think there are thousands of young people who would be happy to have them. Be careful! So many demands could lead to unhappiness and frustration.
Ask the Lord today to help you enjoy the happy times within your reach.